Why not make this year’s Valentine’s Day countdown one for the books?
The Valentine’s Day countdown has officially started!
Are you still looking for someone to spend this special day with?
If so, it’s okay to let fate take the wheel.
According to The Gottman Institute, love starts with what is called “limerence” (2024), which is characterized by the physical and psychological changes that develop from romantic feelings for someone.
Oftentimes, limerence is deliberate, unforced, and comes when you least expect it. It can happen to anyone, at any time or any place.
It can also happen as a result of a “meet-cute”, where two potential lovers encounter each other for the very first time. It’s a classic trope used in many books, movies, and TV shows, but they are known to happen in real life too.
This fairy tale type of experience might sound too good to be true, but when they happen, it can be a magical encounter for the two people involved.
Apart from luck, you’ll need to have the confidence (and eagerness!) to spark a genuine connection and an openness to converse with complete strangers.
So as the Valentine’s Day countdown winds down, see where fate will take you by putting yourself out there to meet people. Whether or not they’re romantic places, they definitely have the potential for an unforgettable meet-cute experience.
WHERE TO GO FOR VALENTINE’S DAY COUNTDOWN
- Coffee shops
Coffee shops are among the busiest places in the city, with customers from every walk of life coming in daily. With a culture built around social interactions, it’s pretty easy to meet like-minded individuals at a cafe.
A coffee shop can be intimate compared to other public meeting places. You can engage in small talk with someone who might be reading a book or simply enjoying their coffee. As long as they seem approachable and you’re being respectful, it’s not frowned upon to approach someone that interests you (even if it’s the barista!).
A simple hello or good morning while waiting in line can be the start of a meaningful connection. If it goes well, you can expand on the pleasantries by talking about something relatable (maybe your surroundings or your go-to order).
From there, you and your potential partner can bond over a shared love of coffee, which could lead to a stronger connection later on. The easy-going atmosphere at cafes is one reason why they often make the best Cebu dating spots.
- Libraries / bookshops
Knowledge is sexy, and nothing is more desirable than someone that is well-read. This is why many people tend to hit on patrons inside a library or bookshop, which Cebu has its fair share of.
Similar to cafes, the peaceful ambiance of a bookshop can be great for shared moments. Lost Books Cebu, for example, has narrow alleyways that can force customers into awkward, but sometimes “kilig” situations.
One thing you can do is help someone find a book they are looking for, or offer to reach for a book from the top shelf. Spark a conversation by asking about the book, sharing your opinion if you have read it, or ask for other recommendations.
From there, you can talk further about your other favorite titles and find some similarities in your reading preferences.
- Hiking trails and groups
Some say shared interests aren’t the ultimate basis for building a relationship, but it’s easy to fall for a fellow hobbyist. Among the many fun activities in Cebu City is hiking, which also happens to be very popular these days.
Cebu has a strong hiking community due to the many mountains and terrains you can trek and explore. There are many hiking groups as well where you can have fun conversations amidst a physical activity.
Not only is the activity known for strengthening one’s relationships, but it can also serve as a litmus test for success. One Medium blog mentions that it showcases your ability to compromise, to communicate properly, to be patient, and to forgive. (2021)
So if you’re planning on meeting a potential partner through this hobby, consider signing up for a hiking trip with a big group so you can meet as many people as possible. If you’re interested in someone, make an effort to spark a conversation as you traverse the island’s picturesque trails.
- Pop-up events and conventions
Most conventions and events are theme-based, and it’s likely that many attendees will have the same interests. That said, attending one could help you meet like-minded individuals. Whether it’s an art fair or a food bazaar, there are a lot of things you can nerd out on.
Starting a conversation can be easier and more natural too. You might ask about their specific interests or even recommendations. Watch out for any fun activities you can take part in as well.
This obviously isn’t limited to fellow attendees, as you can also interact with exhibitors or organizers of the event. You can ask about their setup or compliment them on their skill and artistry.
- Public transport
With the number of people commuting in Cebu, there are many opportunities to start a conversation with someone you might fancy. Understandably, it can be a challenging situation to start a meet-cute.
But due to the high volume of people you encounter on the daily commute, you never know.
You don’t have to flirt or possess that main character energy. Just a simple exchange of “pardon me” or stealing glances from each other can be the start of something exciting.
You can also offer your seat or help out with their bags. An act of kindness goes a long way no matter where you are.
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There is no forcing a meet-cute. It just happens, and that’s what makes it so desirable.
Nothing beats the authenticity of meeting someone for the first time and the instant connection that comes with it. Even just the possibility of meeting them again is enough to make you believe in meet-cutes.
These genuine interactions are indeed very rewarding, as you won’t have to force yourself into someone else’s life.
Some places just happen to have a higher possibility for a meet-cute due to the nature of the place or because it’s bound to have many interesting people. As long as you’re open to the experience and willing to shoot your shot once an opportunity presents itself.
As your Valentine’s Day countdown commences, take a chance at love. If you find someone attractive, muster up the courage and talk to them. Your potential meet-cute experience awaits!
